It’s time to take the leap and do my part to help build a community for those who have went through the heartache of deconversion from religion. I went through this difficult journey and while there are many resources and great websites about skepticism there is a shortage of places that we can point our friends and family to that can highlight the normalcy of this journey.
I wanted to make a place for others to be able to come and hear my stories and others like mine. I thought this would be a great way for me to pay it forward to others who took the bold leap of skepticism leaving the comfort of their faith and risking relationships with their families and friends and sharing their experiences in a public forum, without them I would not have been exposed to information and epistemological questions that led to my deconversion.
This is my first blog as a new “agnostic and deconverted christian” in what I hope can be a series explaining the flaws I found in my faith. The purpose and hope is that it can help others who are either still in a faith belief system to better understand how I could walk away after 30 years in Christianity or for those who are recovering from a deconversion experience.
Many deconversion stories have been written about and shared before. I enjoy reading deconversion stories because it helps me realize I am not the only one who was went through this unforeseen change in belief after my entire worldview was built on it. Friends and family who see someone go through this process think it is someone either “backsliding” or angry at God or the world or in my case the accusations of both with a “mid life crisis” claim thrown in to the discussion as well.
I think deconversion in more “liberal” households can be difficult but when you deconvert in the South, “The Bible Belt”, “In The Great State of Texas” it can definitely add more problems to the mix. Not only did I lose my Christianity but I lost the “all in one” package that came with it. The “previous me” was Fundamental Christian, Republican & Conservative. The Fundamental Christian title has changed to Agnostic Atheist and I no longer identify as republican but rather a Libertarian. In Texas you might as well brand yourself as a murderer and devil worshipper by just admitting either of these changes publicly.
Why would anyone risk damaging the relationship with their spouse, their family and friends and community? I have been asked since I have started to become “out” with my agnosticism to just “go along” and “pretend you still believe” and to “not be so open about it”. I have thought about keeping silent, and to some degree I still am only out to my immediate family and a few friends but I continue to believe remaining silent is not helpful to the overall cause and continue to vocalize my skepticism in conversations delicately.
We all think we are alone, but we are not and that is why it is important for sites like this one to exist and why we need more of them. And as my headline posed the question “do we need more deconversion stories?” I make the case we do and I plan to do my part in speaking out for skepticism. With that said I expect this is largely skeptic audience so my blogs will address the deconversion process and present counter-apologetics to commonly held Christian beliefs. I look forward to your participation joining me in the conversation with comments and feedback and maybe together we learn from each other. If you would also like to follow me on twitter @agnosticdude Till next time…..